100 Amazing Free Anger Management Tips From Charlotte, NC to the World

  1. Tips-Vertaalbureau-Global-textwareExercise regularity to help induce positive feelings
  2. Read a book
  3. Practice deep breathing
  4. Speak with a trusted friend
  5. Use positive by self-talk
  6. HALT! Determine if you irritable because you are hungry, lonely, tired etc.
  7. Take a long bubble bath
  8. Have sex with another willing participant
  9. Take a walk
  10. Talk about the issue
  11. Have a good cry
  12. Write down the pros and cons of dealing with the situation in the way you are considering
  13. Walk away NOW
  14. Go to a 24 hour establishment to clear your head.
  15. Remove yourself from the situation
  16. Go shopping
  17. Go out to dinner with friends
  18. Paint your nails
  19. Work on a project or hobby
  20. Spend time with someone special
  21. Do something special for someone else and keep it to yourself
  22. Use paint to create how you feel on paper
  23. Clean your home
  24. Mow your lawn
  25. Journal about the situation
  26. Listen to your favorite song/s
  27. Take a long drive through a very scenic area
  28. Go sit by a body of water and calm down
  29. Talk about what you are angry about
  30. Identify other emotions that you are truly feeling
  31. Ask yourself what is the real reason you are angry
  32. Go to the spa
  33. Seek professional help
  34. Learn to laugh
  35. Watch a comedy
  36. Dance
  37. Go to a night club and have fun
  38. Evaluate all of your current relationships
  39. Evaluate how people in your life handled anger when you were growing up
  40. Find out what are appropriate and inappropriate ways to express anger
  41. Play your favorite sport
  42. Forgive the person you are angry at
  43. Practice self-talk to calm down
  44. Replay in your head the positive way to deal with the situation that’s creating the anger
  45. Prepare one of your favorite meals
  46. Talk on the phone with someone to help you calm down
  47. Compose a story regarding the situation and develop two endings one that discusses what happens if you follow thru with your anger and one that explains what happens when you express your anger appropriately
  48. Find a place that is special to only you and imagine being there
  49. Smile, the more you smile, the more difficult it is to stay angry
  50. Have a massage
  51. Scream as loud as you can, then regroup
  52. Prayer
  53. Live your dreams (get unstuck)
  54. Count to ten
  55. Anger is a secondary emotions—always find out what is driving your anger
  56. Be always aware of your emotional state
  57. Check your perception of the situation
  58. Angry thinking creates anger. Think anger free thoughts to remain anger free
  59. Anger is a normal emotion-embrace it assuming that your anger is not hurting others
  60. Never follow another driver in anger
  61. Never listen to your angry self-talk
  62. Be aware of your emotional state
  63. Take breaks
  64. Avoid fatigue
  65. Take responsibility for your own actions
  66. Avoid the tendency to be always right
  67. Go for a long drive
  68. Go for a long walk
  69. Reduce stress
  70. Lower your expectations
  71. Mediate
  72. Walk away— repeated because this very important but hard to do.
  73. Avoid excessive use of alcohol
  74. Don’t be a follower. Following another person in the heat of an argument is a means of trying to control the situation and WILL create greater conflict.
  75. Talk out your problems
  76. Be prepared for life’s surprises
  77. Learn to laugh at yourself
  78. Go to anger management classes
  79. Visit www.laugh.org
  80. Visit www.masteringanger.com
  81. Improve your time management
  82. Avoid people that tend to increase your irritability
  83. Learn to communicate your needs
  84. Avoid passive aggressive behavior
  85. Improve money management
  86. You never have the right to hit someone—Never
  87. Get adequate sleep
  88. Behave at sporting events the same way you want your children to behave
  89. Stay clear of angry people
  90. Recognize that what you value or believe others may not
  91. Don’t procrastinate
  92. Be organized
  93. Don’t assume that because you said it other will do it—you are not the center of the universe
  94. Know your pet peeves
  95. Be open to the opinions of others
  96. Avoid excessive overtime
  97. Take time for yourself
  98. Compromise
  99. Remember that your needs are not always the most important
  100. Visit www.masteringconflict.com

by Carlos Todd, PhD, LPC

Dr. Carlos Todd maintains a private coaching, training, consulting, and counseling practice in Charlotte, North Carolina, and specializes in anger management, domestic violence, and conflict management. Learn more at www.carlostodd.com or www.masteringconflict.com


Dr. Carlos Todd, PhD, LPC

Dr. Carlos Todd, the founder of Conflict Coaching & Consulting, Inc. His passion is to equip couples, individuals and organizations with the skills and resources to effectively manage life’s conflicts. Dr. Todd is part of an elite group of individuals who can claim expertise in conflict management that has been tested by academic rigor. He completed doctoral studies in conflict management and has applied this training to address conflict in relationships as well as organizations. He has used this model to inform his ongoing work on couples conflict resolution. Dr. Todd is also a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) granted by the North Carolina Board of Licensed Professional Counselors in 2005 and is a Nationally Certified Counselor (NCC) granted by the National Board Certified Counselors 2002.